In Esbjerg, the television is switched on from early morning until late at night. Nadezda (76) and Natalia (54), mother and daughter, keep up with the Ukrainian news stream. They are waiting for good news about the impending Ukrainian offensive, which has been anticipated for months. Their hometown of Melitopol, located in southeastern Ukraine in the Zaporizhizhia region, is occupied by the Russians.
The Beginning of the War
We are in a small apartment on the second floor in Esbjerg. In another room, you can hear Natalia's children Gleb (14) and Nina (17). They don't want to participate in the interview. We have gathered around a table in the living room, which transforms into a bedroom in the evening. Gleb sleeps on the large black leather couch, and the bed on the other side of the table, where the two ladies are sitting, is Nadezda's bed.
Natalia
The children panicked.
We have met to hear about their escape from Ukraine to Esbjerg, Denmark. “We were awakened on the 24th of February at 5:00 AM in the morning. Two large missiles struck very close by. The windows were blown out, and we had no idea what was happening,” Natalia says first, remembering how she was supposed to be at work early that morning. Everything ended in chaos as the family was in a state of shock, trying to figure out how to handle the difficult situation. The phone rang constantly as everyone wanted to know if they were safe, at the sametime as everyone tried to figure out what was going on. Natalia's husband was in Poland, so she was alone at home with the children in the apartment. “The children panicked,” Natalia recalls, before continuing to recount how the next decision turned out to be a bad one.
An escape from the City to the Countryside
Nadezda stayed in her house in a village outside Melitopol. Her husband had passed away long before the war, so she lived there alone. It was one of Natalia's neighbors who ended up driving Natalia, Gleb, and Nina out of Melitopol to the village. “We thought it would be safer in the countryside,” Natalia explains, but that's where the fighting escalated as the Russians advanced. “We saw lots of dead soldiers in the streets... Russian soldiers,” Natalia recalls. At that time, the front line fluctuated back and forth, and they ended up being 10 people in Nadezda's basement. Some neighbors sought refuge there because they didn't have a basement of their own. For three days, they all sat tight together on the cold concrete floor to survive, while they could hear the fighting getting closer and closer. The Ukrainians were forced to retreat, and the Russians occupied the area.
The journey out of Ukraine
When the Russians took over the village, there was no gas or electricity. The internet was blocked, and no one knew what was happening. They decided to go back to Melitopol, where they managed to live for a month under Russian occupation. The children didn't go to school, and Natalia's job had been shut down. Before the war, she worked as a nurse at a clinic, but with the lack of pay, fear of the war, and the difficult situation, they saw no other possibilities but to flee Ukraine.
Natalia
There were people in line everywhere. We didn't think we would make it to the other side.
Natalia's eldest daughter, son-in-law, and young grandchild had already fled from Kyiv to the USA at the beginning of the war. They had researched the options and recommended Denmark as the best place they could seek refuge. They managed to pass through the Russian checkpoint, so they could leave the occupied area in Zaporizhizhia, and then they boarded an evacuation train to Lviv, a journey that took them 24 hours. After that, they crossed the border into Poland. “There were people in line everywhere. We didn't think we would make it to the other side. It took an eternity,” Natalia recounts before taking a long pause.
The Road to Esbjerg
They spent three days in Przemysl, Poland, a city close to the Ukrainian border. There, volunteers took care of them while they gathered strength for the next stage. Natalia, Nadezda, Gleb, and Nina ended up on a bus with some religious people from Denmark. They had two bags with them, containing only the essentials. They left the rest behind in their home country. The journey from Poland went directly to Esbjerg, where they were accommodated by a Danish family for about two months. After that, they moved to the apartment where they still live today.
Life in West Jutland
Today, Gleb attends a regular Danish school three days a week, and two days a week, he attends a Ukrainian class. Nina has applied to the international gymnasium, and in her free time, she works in a sports facility. Natalia attends a Danish school three days a week, but she has developed severe problems with her back, which she believes are due to the many hours spent in the basement, seeking shelter from the bombs and bullets of war.
Nadezda
There is nothing left. Russian soldiers stole my home. They took everything.
Nadezda has memory problems and does not go to school. She takes the opportunity to elaborate further on the situation back home: “There is nothing left. Russian soldiers stole my home. They took everything.” Nadezda explains how neighbors in the area could inform them about how furniture, belongings, big and small, were stolen by the Russian soldiers. “They even stole the front door. I am too old; I cannot return home,” she says, ending with a heavy sigh.
Russia Attacking Its Own
After a long pause, Nadezda speaks up again. She has been sitting quietly, listening to Natalia's answers to the many follow-up questions. “How can the Russians attack their own people? I was born in Siberia myself,” she says, maintaining her gaze. Her parents moved to Melitopol when she was young because they wanted to live in a warmer climate.
Nadezda
Ukrainians are very Warm-hearted, and we only want to live in peace. We didn't threaten anyone. The same goes for Crimea and Donetsk.
Later, Nadezda married a Ukrainian man. “Ukrainians are very Warm-hearted, and we only want to live in peace. We didn't threaten anyone. The same goes for Crimea and Donetsk,” Nadezda continues. She refers to Putin's annexation of the Crimean Peninsula in 2008 and the Russians' invasion of Donetsk and Lugansk in 2014. “The Russians are dropping bombs on civilians right now. Why?” Nadezda asks, “They are terrorists...” she says with anger in her voice.
The Future
“To flee is a state of shock. It's tears and fear for one's children. Fear for one's future. It's not something I wish for anyone to experience,” Natalia says. Her children must choose for themselves what their future holds. Whether they will stay in Denmark or return to Ukraine. Gleb has expressed his desire to become an Azov soldier and fight for a free Ukraine. For now, Nina wants to pursue her education in Denmark. Nadezda doesn't see a future in Ukraine because she has lost everything. Despite knowing that she will never learn the Danish language, and how important language is to get by. Natalie is torn. She prays and hopes for a swift end to the war. That democracy will prevail so that the rebuilding and healing process of Ukraine can begin.
Nadezda
Nadezda, my name means hope...
As we are about to conclude, it turns out that Nadezda turned 76 the day before we met. She appears as a strong woman, sitting across the table, speaking with her deep and powerful voice. “Nadezda, my name means hope,” she says. Silence falls as the information sinks in. She ends the encounter by thanking Denmark and all Danes for welcoming the Ukrainian people so well when they came here in their time of need. “I want to thank the Danish people for their help and support.” Those are the last words from Nadezda that day.
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